Tuesday, April 22, 2008

Laughter Power

I guess laughter and joy is good for your health and helps a person live longer.

http://ririanproject.com/2007/10/26/10-benefits-of-laughter-and-how-to-use-it/

Confirms the scripture:

"A happy heart is good medicine and a cheerful mind works healing..."(Proverbs 17)

I guess being 'grim' really isn't that good for you after all.

As the study suggests, instead eating that box of chocolates, just go aheada smile... :) If you are going to have a box of chocolates, at least smile. :)

Have a happy, joyful day...

Tuesday, October 09, 2007

Listen To Your Intution

"The only real valuable thing is intution. "
- Albert Einstein

This is a pretty cool article about listening to your intuition:

http://www.lynnrobinson.com/art_getahead.html

It seems women tend to be a little more trained or have a stronger tendency of listening to their intuition. I guess the business world is catching on, because a majority of the small businesses these days are being started by women. Anyway, pretty cool article that reminds you to trust your gut. It can open to the door to great blessing as well as save you years of grief. I think we've all experienced this first hand at some point. Thank God when you get the ‘green light’ from within and thank God when you get the ‘red light’. It’s for your benefit and gives you an ‘edge’.

You are the best...

Choosing The Best

"And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ--to the glory and praise of God." -Philippians 1: 9 - 11

Part of codependent behavior is it tends to settle for "good" rather then the "best". Settling for "good" usually has it's roots in fear of hurting people, i.e. the fear of man, which has it's roots in the fear of death - abandoment, being left alone, feeling rejected, "getting hurt again".

Good vs The Best
When you are in the middle of settling for "good" over the "best", there is usually an "unease" that comes with it. You find yourself acting out previous programing of "rationalizing" your decision for fear of hurting peoples feelings or having your own feelings hurt. But deep down you are crying out.

Don't ignore the heart cry of your spirit! Something isn't right. You could be choosing "good" over "the best". When you are violating your own conscience: "good" is actually not "good" at all. "Good" comes with a price!

Choose The Best
Make a quality decision to choose the best. You'll find it will liberate your spirit (your inner being) to start looking for God's best in your life. Decree and declare: "I choose the best. I choose God's best. God's best is mine. " The book of Job says:

"You shall also decide and decree a thing, and it shall be established for you; and the light [of God's favor] shall shine upon your ways" (Job 22: 28)

When you decide and decree that you will choose God's best for your life, the light of God's favor will shine on the path of God's best for your life. Opportunites, ideas, insights, relationships, serendipous events, and resources will begin to emerge. Situations will begin to accomodate themselves on your behalf. You will still have to make decisions and perservere on that path, but the path will begin to open up.

The Path To The Best
Will there be confrontations along the path to the best? Possibly. Your decision to go from "good to great" and "better to best" will not only shake up your own comfort zone, but peoples comfort zones around you.

Obviously, be wise and treat people with love and respect and don't in haste "throw out the baby with the bathwater". Keep a balanced perspective on this quest for the best. Look for underlying patterns, themes, root causes and 'key issues' while being action-oriented and decisive. Read the lines and read between the lines. As the scripture says:

"The plans of the diligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to poverty"
(Proverbs 21:5)

Let peace be your guide. As the late Edwin Louise Cole so wisely put it:
  • Children feel, act and then think
  • Men feel, think, and then act.
  • Leaders think, act and then feel...Feelings follow action."
Great advice and worth meditating on: think...act....feel. I might add that along with doing your 'due diligence', let peace be the 'umpire' of your heart . (Colossians 3:15)

Be Cerebral and Spiritual
This is a picture of a person who is living a pro-active, intentional life. They 'think it through' with the intent of 'following through', while listening to their gut. They are cerebral and spiritual with an intent of taking some kind of action - even if their decision is to take action now, take no action, or take action at a later time. They are a paradoxical blend of being both sharp-minded and soft-hearted. They are focused and determined, yet flexible and open to a better approach. They are what John C. Maxwell calls: 'velvet covered bricks': having the capacity to be 'tough, but tender'. A person who functions this way tends to end up 'calling the shots', because most people don't like to have to think and don't have the patience to quite down to listen to their intuition. As Hitler said:

"How lucky it is for rulers that men do not think!" - Adolf Hitler

Wow! Motivates you to start thinking!

When a person engages in this type of intentional, creative thinking and allows time for the Holy Spirit to start to clarify the plan of God for their lives, it opens the door for Divine direction, strategies, plans and "divinely directed decisions". When a person develops the habit of being an intentional thinker, while developing their 'leadership intuition' and capacity for 'divinely directed decisions', it produces higher results! They tend to be highly effective people rather then just busy, and major on high leverage activities that produce high leverage results. They make genuine progress...

Methods of Operation: Tranquility
You might be thinking at this point: "I like what you are saying, but how do I go about this process of 'intentional think'?" Great question! One method of engaging in this process of thinking, is to find a good 'thinking spot' that brings you peace and stirs up your creativity. The place could be a favorite 'thinking chair', a home office, or even a place like a coffee shop. Whatever place stimulates you and gives you a sense of peace and tranquility is a good 'spot'. It can literally be anywhere, so long as it's your place to get stirred up again.

I tend to like Starbucks. Usually when I'm reading a stimulating book and taking notes and meditating on new ideas, my creativity gets stirred up and I start to get a sense of 'direction' or a way to improve upon something I'm currently doing. I also start to sense things that don't fit into the overall vision for my life and are worth 'moving on' from. Alot of the 'why's' of why I should do something or 'why' I should move on from something are brought to the surface. In other cases, I may not always be able to intellectually put my finger on exactly why I should do something or why I should stop doing something, but I sense it at an etheral level.

This process can also come through prayer or spending time in Scriptures to sharpen your mind, refresh your spirit, and expand your vision.

When you find your 'spot', it's wise to bring a pad of paper and pen to jot down notes and ideas. There is power in the written word and putting your ideas down on paper is great method of forming direction, fleshing out ideas and committing to some kind of action.

Let Go Of The Lesser To Embrace The Best
That said, determine to choose God's best for your life - being aware that there may be some boundry setting excercizes and 'executive decisions' along the way. There will be occassions when, after honestly analyzing a situation and seeking wisdom, you will have to let go of the 'lesser' to embrace the 'best'. (John 15:2) This can come in the form of a bold new course or simply some kind of 'adjustment' that will help you improve from 'good to great' and 'better to best' in some area of your life. It will be worth the decision, however, because it comes with the most valuable asset you can have....peace.

You are the best.

*******


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Thursday, June 14, 2007

True Career Success

One of the principles Steven Covey teaches about is the habit of personal leadership. There is a difference between "leadership"and "management". Leadership tends to be about "direction" and "vision". Management tends to be about "implementation" of that vision. Leadership majors on 'intangibles', whereas management majors on tangibles. You need both to be successful.

In his book, the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, he states that the manager tends to excel at climbing the ladder of success, while the leader determines if the ladder is leaning against the right wall. In this day and age, we need more then ever to determine if the "ladder is leaning against the right wall". In some case, it may just be a case of making an "adjustment", that will produce great success. This applies to the direction of our careers, as well as our lives in general.

Here are a few links that give some great ideas on enhancing you career:

http://www.48days.com/ http://www.5patterns.com/

http://lifeatwork.portfoliocms.com/Brix?pageID=9

Managing Your Career

The sites are chock full of ideas and strategies of how to pro-actively manage your career and take your career to the next level. The articles in the sites help you to think beyond the 'day-to-day grind' and think about where you are going.

A man or woman with a vision and a plan and a strategy to get there is a powerful thing...As it says in the proverbs:

"It's better to be wise than strong; intelligence outranks muscle any day. Strategic planning is the key to warfare; to win, you need a lot of good counsel." Proverbs 24:6 (MSG)

Excercize wise, personal leadership and take an intelligent look at were you want to go, seems to be the message of this proverb. For instance, what are your dreams? What is your vision? What are your strengths and gifts? What are you innately good at...or even great at? What are you passionate about? How can you leverage your gifts and talents and be well compensated for it? What's pulling at your heart? What causes you to come 'alive' on the inside? What is your mission and purpose in life? What is "bearing fruit" ? These are "intelligent" questions you can ask yourself to determine the 'direction' of you career and life.

If you aren't exactly sure about the direction you should go, one approach is to seek input of friends, family and co-workers who have your best interests at heart and would love to to see you excel in life. Sometimes a "different set of eyes" can be helpful.

As the great Brian Tracey said:

"If you’re still not sure about your true calling, ask the people the closest to you. Ask them, “What do you think I would be the very best at doing with my life?” It is absolutely amazing how people around you, including your spouse, your best friends, and your parents can see clearly what you should be doing when often you cannot see it yourself."

Make sure to say "thank you", whether you agree with their insights or not.

Another step you can take to receive direction is to pray for wisdom. The bible says that "Wisdom is the principle thing". The wisdom of God will reveal the "key issue" to your situation. Whatever ideas, concepts, and insights begin to come to your mind, be open to exploring them, however conventional or uncoventional. Make sure to write the ideas down. God's direction may confirm what you were sensing all along or, in other cases, comes as a flash of illumination, inspiration or insight - that will set you on a new course. When the idea "pops in your head" there are times you may think: "WHY DIDN'T THINK OF THAT EARLIER...THAT'S SO OBVIOUS!". :) That's an indicator of the God's wisdom at work in your life. The keyword here is "peace".

After taking an intelligent, prayerful look at where you want to go, utilize strategic planning where your career is concerned. Be strategic in your thinking. Implement your vision with management by objective principles. What key, pro-active strategic steps can you take to get you from where you currently are to where you want to go with your life? Perhaps it is a "timing issue" or a need for more education or developing some new thinking or attitudinal skills. Perhaps it might boil down to viewing yourself in a new way and giving yourself "permission" to go after your dreams.

Jack Canfield in his book"Success Principles: How to Get From Where You are to Where You Want To Be" gives the account of how he noticed a teller at a bank who had just started. The teller wore clothes that looked more like a manager, and even though he was a teller and did his job with excellence, he "acted" more like a manger. He was "acting the part" of the job he was believing for. He began to think, act, talk, dress, plan, educate himself, and live like the leader he knew he was called to be. Later on when Jack Canfield visited the bank, the teller was no longer a teller, but a manager. He 'acted the part' and eventually literally became "the part" he was playing. He determined to see himself in a new way and over time became that person he saw in his vision. This principle could apply not only toward developing a career more in line with your God-given gifts and strengths, but also developing a side business or any dream you have.

What key qualities and qualifications will you need for the position you are believing for or the new level you are dreaming about? Take the time to "think it through" and then "follow through".

As the proverb states, to win, you need alot of 'good counsel'. Choose your friends, advisors and counsel wisely. You will notice the proverbs says "good counsel". There is good counsel and there is bad counsel. Choose good counsel. Don't tell your dreams to non-dreamers. Surround yourself with people who believe in your dreams, as well as people who are operating at a higher level then yourself. Enlist the help of 'experienced champions' in your field of endevour who believe in you and your dreams and can help mentor you to the next level. The power of "associates" is in incredible - for good or bad. Don't hang out with "crabs" who will keep you in the bucket of mediocrity. Hang out with eagles, who will help you soar to new heights of excellence. This principle not only applies in terms of your career, but every area of your life.

This doesn't mean surround yourself with 'yes' men. But surround yourself with credible, wise men and women who not only encourage you to follow your dreams, but have wisdom and experience of how to get there. Your associates and 'counsel of adviosrs' could include people you know, as well as resources such as books, tapes, videos, magazines, and online learning. For instance, as I sought to learn more about leadership, I bought a number of John C. Maxwell books. I've never met him, personally, but his books and tapes have provided awesome counsel and insights that would have otherwise taken me years to learn on my own. In the area of leadership, I consider him part of my 'counsel of advisors', even though I've never met him before. It's been a story of accelerated learning and "increase by association".

There is, indeed, safety in a 'multitude of counsel'.

Words to think about and live by.

You are the best. :)

Wednesday, May 23, 2007

Hero's Journey

This is a free e-book on the "Hero's Journey" made famous by Joseph Campbell:

http://www.alvinsoon.com/lifecoachesblog/wp-content/files/theherosjourney.pdf

Most movies are based on the Hero's Journey pattern as well as most mythology.

I think the hero's journey pattern is somewhat symbolic of the path that we are called to walk and our destiny. It's like the journey is inscribed on our hearts.

Something within cries out for significance and the 'freedom to live'.

Enjoy and receive your personal 'call to adventure'....whatever it might be at this time.

Monday, February 20, 2006

Trust Your Gut

This is an interesting article on how simplifying an issue can help you make better decisions:

http://www.guardian.co.uk/science/story/0,,1711859,00.html

I think when you listen to the voice of your spirit (or your intuition) it helps to identify key issues in a decision.

We sometimes over-complicate issues which leads to "paralysis of analysis".

This doesn't mean to not evaluate the facts and your options. However, I believe the article suggesting take a 'gut check' along with using conscious decision making.

I read this account of Michael Jordan taking a cruise on Warren Buffet's yacht. Warren Buffett at the time was the richest man on the planet and considered the greatest investor who ever lived. Basically you had on board the greatest basketball player who ever lived with the greatest investor. Michael Jordan asked Warren Buffet what was the key to his success as an investor and businessman. Warren said to "trust your gut". Michael said he thought that was a good idea.

I thought was pretty intriguing.

Both have obviously been extraordinarily diligent at their crafts and have majored on and developed their unique God-given gifts and strengths. However, that extra dimension of listening to their intuition has also helped to catupult them to the "top of the top" of their respected fields.

Enjoy the article and along with doing your "due diligence"...trust your gut. :)

You are the best..

Tuesday, April 05, 2005

Achieving Your Dreams

Alot of times we have big dreams and visions, but aren't sure how to get there. One thing you can do is break your dream down into smaller goals. By doing so, you'll be taking one step of faith at a time rather then trying to achieve the vision all at once. Everytime you reach a goal, celebrate. By doing so, you'll be "enjoying where you are to where you are going". I believe this actually aids in the process of achieving your dreams, because you are not only focused on achieving your goals, but also enjoying the journey of your life. As the old adage goes: "success isn't just a destination, but a journey".Enjoy the journey. You are the best.

Power of Written Goals

This is a neat link about the power of written goals:

http://www.thinkarete.com/wisdom/works/notes/1434/

The thinkarete.com sight is also pretty cool. I've always enjoyed philosophical-type people, with a bent toward action. I read a book recently by John C. Maxwell called "Thinking For A Change". He said "Think like a man of action" and "act like a man of thought". In other words, "think it through and then follow through." I thought that was great advice. Be a "thinking man's action hero". And that applies to both men and women.

Writing your goals down is a huge key to success. Writing your goals downs helps to clarify and develop your vision, as well as unleash commitment. It also helps to keep you focused on the path you have CHOSEN.

The word CHOSEN is a big word, because to many people spend there lives "reacting" rather then being pro-active. Ultimately, the path to living a life of destiny, if you will, is to live an "intentional" pro-active life based on your choices. When you begin to establish goals, it forces you to think out what you want in life. When you begin to determine "what you want" for your life and the person you truly want to become and then begin taking steps in that direction, things begin to happen. You're life begins to have a "life of it's own" and the manifestation of the dream has the potential to be bigger then the dream itself.

If you don't have established goals for your life (and established plans), you could end up living out somebody else's goals, as nothing happens in a vacuum. There is nothing wrong with helping other to achieve there goals, but you need to also establish your own goals and be determined to fulfill your God-given destiny and live your dreams.When you begin to put down your dreams on paper and then develop plans, you have taken a huge step in the direction of being a person of fulfilled destiny and vision.

Here are a few areas you can establish goals this coming year:

1) Spiritual
2) Family
3) Health
4) Relationship
5) Academic
6) Career/Business
7) Financial
8) Investing
9) Fun & Recreational

Some examples of goals could be as wide and varied as:

* taking a continuing education course
* set up a savings account
* learning a new computer application
* buying some land
* be debt-free
* lose 10 pounds
* keeping in a greater contact with family
* turning a hobby into a side-business
* spending more time in prayer
* listen to leadership tapes
* take a trip to Hawaii
* read a chapter a day in the bible
* etc....

Whether your goals are big or small, the key is to start. As it says in the scriptures: “With the measure you use, it will be measured to you–and even more." (Mark 4) Another way of putting it, is the more you put into something, the more you'll get out of it...and more will be added to you. That's a picture of the exponential curve. You'll find as you're faithful to but your vision down on paper and start moving in the direction of your dreams, more will be added to you and a wonderful thing called "momentum" will kick into operation. Like the development of a muscle, your vision and goals will expand and increase over time and you're life will have greater focus and impact. God bless you as you pursue your God-given dreams and vision.

You are the best...